Am I an “Old Maid”? If this is a question you are asking yourself than there are some important things you should know first. Historically, an “Old Maid” is someone that is alone, shy, unsocial able, and shows no signs of changing that. People that usually fit this profile are not always happy with that they want to change; this is because they do not know how or are scared to try. This usually leads to unhealthy living habits, such as obesity, loneliness, obsession, and are easily lured into situations by people that take advantage of them.
One way to avoid being an “Old Maid” is to be around people in social settings. No one says you cannot be alone and independent, but you should communicate with other people to keep current and avoid being lonely. The more you stay up to date without becoming someone your not will help you find someone that will fulfill you in every way. Everyone wants to fall in love, but you cannot accomplish this without getting out there and meeting people. Just finding someone to talk to besides yourself is important not only for you but your sanity.
A second way to avoid being an “Old Maid” is to try and be the one to initiate social situations and not be scared of what people think or say. Some people avoid doing this because it puts them in an awkward position. Being awkward and feeling awkward are two different things, sometimes thinking too much will only convince you not to do it. Even going to the store can be a way to learn how to talk to people because they are being paid to be nice to you. It doesn’t matter whether they really want to or not.
A third way to avoid being an “Old Maid” is to find people that have the same interests as you. For instance, if one of your hobbies is baking pastries, take a pastry class. You do not have to change who you are in order to change your life for the better. No one wants to be alone, whether you have one good best friend or have found love you want to be happy and the only way to accomplish this is to not be alone all the time. Everyone needs a little me time, but sometimes it can be unhealthy.
Finally, to avoid being an “Old Maid” shouldn’t be what is driving you to try these things. Enjoy life; be happy with who you are and learn to love yourself and except yourself for who you are. Once you’ve convinced yourself of that than it will be easier for other people to see it to. This will make it easier for you to meet new people and hopefully find someone you can enjoy your likes with together. You are never too old to change, and every day should be lived to the fullest. The smallest changes in your life can make all the difference and avoid being an “Old Maid” forever.