Isn’t it wonderful when a man is being romantic? He’s so creative and full of surprises and it just feels so good to be loved and romanced by a man whom you care about and love a lot too.
Unfortunately, when you’ve been in a stable relationship for some time, you may notice your man becoming less and less romantic. Why does this happen? What is really happening? You know he loves you, but then why isn’t he doing the things that make your heart flutter and sing anymore?
Some may think that the reason why men stop being romantic, is simply because he has run out of romantic ideas. While this is a valid and logical explanation, deep down, you know that if he really wanted to plan a romantic date for you, he would find a way. So while being ‘out of ideas’ is a justifiable reason, it doesn’t help you get to the root of the matter. And even if you buy him a book filled with romantic date ideas, if he’s not inspired, he’s not going to use them, and you’ll feel even more frustrated.
So the biggest reason why men stop being romantic is that he has grown extremely comfortable in your relationship, and he’s simply taking the easy way out, because he can. He knows you are not going to leave him just because he’s not being romantic. So instead of going through all the trouble of planning and coming up with some romantic idea, he is just going to sit on the couch and watch some TV instead.
You’ve played a part in this because you’ve let your man become lazy. You probably wouldn’t doing it on purpose. In fact, you probably did all you could to make his life easier, just to show him how much you love him. Unfortunately, by taking such good care of him, you took his job of being your romantic hero and prince away from him.
So, the only way to get his romantic juices flowing again, is to give him some incentives to do so. You do this by doing less for him and making him feel good when he does small things for you. Instead of doing things for him in return, just tell him how much you appreciate what he’s done. Men love being appreciated and while it will take some time, his romantic side will come back. Whatever you do, please don’t nag him.