Have you ever wondered why men pull away in the early stages of dating? Things seem to start out great. The guy is constantly calling or texting you, he tells you that he really likes you; he says he hasn’t had feelings like this since his last serious relationship etc. He is giving you all of these signs that he is really into you and then at some point, he suddenly seems cold and distant. Why is that?
I’m going to let you in on a little secret now; a lot of men are insecure. One reason that a lot of men say all of these nice things, and tell you how interested they are in you, is because they are simply trying to find out if you really like them; they will tell you that they have strong feelings, and then see how you react. Are you really excited when they say something like that or do you start to pull back? Not all men play these kinds of games and a lot of men don’t even realize that they are doing it, but a lot of men are insecure and they are trying to get information. They want to know if you like them or not.
The problem is that once a man has the information he has been fishing for, he may begin to change. In the early stages of a relationship everyone wants to be liked. People will often put up a façade and try to project a persona of the type of person they think other people would be interested in. Once a man realizes that you actually like him, he will drop the act and start to be himself. That can be a good thing but once that happens, the dynamic of the relationship can change, and not always for the better.
Another reason why men pull away in the early stages of dating is because some men are simply not ready for a serious relationship. If they get the sense that things are moving too fast, they will start to pull back. Other men are simply looking to have a good time, and once they get what they want they are no longer interested.
The real trick is to find someone who truly does want a serious relationship, and someone who is not going to lead you on and play games. If you are dating a man and things seem to be going great, and then he suddenly starts to pull back, you need to speak up and say something about it. Confronting a man about this subject may be uncomfortable, but if he really is interested in you he will want to work things out. If he just blows off your feelings and tells you there’s nothing to worry about, or if he gets angry and starts to pick a fight, he was not the right guy for you anyway and it is best to end that relationship and move on. If that is the case, at least it happened in the early stages of the relationship, before things got too serious.